MAKING FRIENDS WITH FEAR
RESILIENCE MESSAGES IN THE MOVIE 'INTO THE SPIDER-VERSE'
Fear is a feeling that we all experience. It takes many forms and it can be disruptive and terrifying. At Resilience in Kids, we spend a lot of time speaking with parents and children about fear and one of our core beliefs is that fear is here to be befriended and not to be confronted.
But what is fear and what happens in our bodies when we experience fear? Why do we talk about ‘making friends with fear’ rather than ‘facing fear’? And what can we do to help our children make friends with fear?
HEALTHY TECH USE
A lot of kids’ movies have resilience messages woven throughout them. Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse is a great example of this. So, what’s the movie about and what are some of these messages? And what does this mean for how we, as parents, can build the resilience of our kids?
7 TIPS FOR BUILDING YOUR CHILD'S CONFIDENCE
It won’t be news to you that technology either is, or is going to be, a huge part of our kids’ lives. As parents we’re not going to be able to prevent this – the stable door is open and the horse has bolted. And nor should we want to. Instead, the opportunity that lays ahead for us is to fully engage with the technological world our kids inhabit and to encourage healthy tech habits from an early age.
I've been spending some time recently with the insightful Jocelyn Brewer from Digital Nutrition. She agreed to let me interview her to explore what healthy tech use looks like for her.
HELPING CHILDREN MANAGE THEIR EMOTIONS
Helping build children’s confidence is a big area of focus for us at Resilience in Kids, and the question “How can I build my child’s confidence?” is one that parents ask us regularly. Most of us would agree that being confident is preferable to being unconfident. But why is this and what is the relationship between confidence and resilience? And how do we build children’s confidence – isn’t this something they either have or they don’t?
MISCONCEPTIONS SURROUNDING THE TERM 'RESILIENCE'
Managing emotions – this is a big topic and, let’s face it, one that affects all of us! We all experience emotions all of the time and as parents we have an important role to play in helping our children learn how to manage these.
This is easier said than done – many of us haven’t been taught how to manage our emotions and doing so doesn’t necessarily come naturally to us. But why is it important that we manage our emotions? And what can we as parents do to help our children learn how to do this?
HELPING YOUR CHILD FEEL SCHOOL READY
Resilience is a hot topic – at Resilience in Kids we focus on resilience in primary school aged children, but you don’t have to look far for articles and initiatives that talk to resilient teens, schools, organisations, cities, countries. Sydney even has its own Chief Resilience Officer.
Despite all of this, a shared understanding of what resilience is, and isn’t, is lacking and there are misconceptions surrounding the term.
What are some of these?
TEACHING OUR KIDS ABOUT BULLYING
The long summer holidays are almost over and for most kids next week represents the start of a new school year. Some will be starting school for the first time, others will be starting in new schools and others will be staying at the same school but joining new classes.
Many kids are excited to be starting back at school, but for others this can be a difficult time – one that brings plenty of opportunity to flex that all important resilience muscle. This can be a difficult time for parents too, one that brings mixed feelings.
So what can we, as parents, do over the next few days to help our children feel ‘school ready’ and to help strengthen their resilience muscle?
SELF-CARE AND SELF-COMPASSION
I spend a lot of time talking to parents and children, and to the professionals who work with them, and one thing is clear – bullying is a real issue for many kids. This is not new. But there is much greater awareness these days in the community of bullying and the harm it can do.
PRACTISING REALISTIC THINKING
The lead up to Christmas and the long school holidays can be stressful for parents. I speak to many parents daily, both in a personal and a professional capacity, and many of them are doing it tough, commenting that they are snapping more at their kids or loved ones, are struggling to sleep, feel ongoing low levels of anxiety or worse.
WHAT PARENTS SHOULD MAKE OF PARENTING STYLES
All children experience worrying thoughts – this is normal. But sometimes these can become excessive, where they overestimate the likelihood and impact of them coming true. This can lead to a range of issues including poor sleep, a lack of focus at school, a reluctance to do things that are outside of their comfort zone and more. What can we do as parents to help our children through these situations?
PARENT AS RESILIENCE COACH
Parents don’t have to look far in the media for articles about different parenting styles and their effects on children’s development – ‘helicopter’ and ‘lawnmower’ parenting styles appear to be the styles du jour, but dig deeper and you’ll find references to attachment, tiger, permissive, authoritarian styles and more. As parents, what are we supposed to make of all of this?
4 TIPS FOR PARENTS TO STRENGTHEN THEIR CHILDREN'S RESILIENCE
We spend a lot of time at Resilience in Kids talking about the concept of ‘Parent as Resilience Coach’ – but what do we mean by this? What does it take to be one? And what is the difference between parenting and resilience coaching – are they not the same thing?
3 TIPS FOR MAKING HEALTHY FRIENDSHIP CHOICES
I’m often asked what we, as parents, can do to strengthen our children’s resilience and become our children’s own “Resilience Coach”. Whilst there are no simple answers and no one size fits all approach, there are a number of behaviours that, if applied consistently by us, will likely shift the dial on their resilience.
14 IDEAS FOR TEACHING KIDS RESILIENCE
We all want our children to make good friendship choices – but what does this mean in practice and how do we help our children make the right choices?
3 TIPS FOR STAYING COOL AND CALM
Coming back from the holidays and it can be hard to resume the school routine that typically consists of far less technology than the summer break. And technology is not the only thing parents need to curb now that the party’s over. Later nights, friends over, TV dinners and more.
Are you finding your kids are losing their temper more quickly, perhaps because they haven’t had enough sleep? How many of you are finding your kids are quicker to tears than normal, maybe because they don’t have enough time to just ‘be’? Has the bickering between your siblings reached new levels?